In the last 24 hours I have had two unhappy reviews of me. First I had a client with mental health issues give me a one star review on Yelp and then after reading that my friend shared with me that one of her friends does not like me. Both of these thoughts have been spinning around in my head.
In the first scenario I went back and forth on how to respond. I know this person has substance abuse issues, memory issues and when I met with him, I thought I shouldn't take him. Now seeing his review I have been beating myself up about how dumb I was not to listen to my gut. But then the other part of me did not want to attack him in a public website. My ego of course keeps popping and saying you did a great job. He can't remember anything you did and how dare he ruin my reputation. But when I drill down even more I just don't like that one star.
Now the second situation has to do with a friend of a friend…not even my friend. So why did I feel hurt, frustrated, angry? It was a similar feeling to the bad review. Huh, what is that about? Yep, I don't like her one star review either.
I did everything to rationalize my feelings but the bottom line I don't want anyone to disapprove of me. Isn't that dumb? So with this writing I think I can release both of these situations to the universe and move the fuck on. Namaste.
And with that I am dialed into this very helpful list…hope it helps you too. Namaste!
1- They move on. They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
2- They keep control. They don't give away their power.
3- They embrace change. They welcome challenges.
4- They stay happy. They don't complain. They don't waste energy on thing they can't control.
5- They are kind, fair, and unafraid to speak up. They don't worry about pleasing other people.
6- They are willing to take calculated risks. They weigh the risks and benefits before taking action.
7- They invest their energy in the present. They don't dwell on the past.
8- They accept full responsibility for their past behavior. They don't make the same mistake over and over.
9- They celebrate other people's success. They don't resent that success.
10- They are willing to fail. They don't give up after failing. They see every failure as a chance to improve.
11- They enjoy their time alone. They don't fear being alone.
12- They are prepared to work and succeed on their own merits. They don't feel the world owes them anything.
13- They have staying power. They don't expect immediate results.
14- They evaluate their core beliefs and modify as needed.
15- They expend their mental energy wisely. They don't spend time on unproductive thoughts.
16- They think productively. They replace negative thoughts with productive thoughts.
17- They tolerate discomfort. They accept their feelings without being controlled by them.
